Have you ever felt like the cat in this meme? I certainly have. I cared so much about everything and I was there for everyone, except me. And that’s the thing. Trauma is a separation from the self. It’s not what happens to you, it’s what happens inside of you.

So while I was busy rescuing everyone else (at least that’s what I thought I was doing) I had exiled a large part of who I was.

When I was young, I was pretty dissociated – I was there but I was never really there. I could ‘do’ but I had difficulty connecting. Later in life I found myself struggling with a heap of issues mostly grouped under the headings of anxiety and depression, and then trying to manage escape behaviours – porn and alcohol. I got that under control by throwing myself into positive things like work and community. That was good but it didn’t address the real issues, so anxiety and depression remained.

Finally I understood that these ‘issues’ were simply a distress call from those long exiled parts of myself. I came to meet and love them through guided mindfulness and self-compassion, including the unconditional acceptance of my ‘shadow’.

Trauma Life Recovery

That is what I now teach in the Trauma Life Recovery course, as well as some straight talk about addiction and heaps of other good stuff from relationships to budgeting. Hey, all of these things intersect at some point.

If any of that lands for you, then enrol in the course here.

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May you find and love all of you. 

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